Labor Day

Friday night I met up with J- poor decision making to follow. Who ever encouraged me to think that after 2 hours of drinking with no food was a prime time to begin the texting, needs to not be my friend! No seriously, was a texting fool on Friday, and found out that J was at home eating Sushi- so naturally I invited him to meet me at a friends apartment, where they had been drinking for hours, there was 10 guys, 2 girls, and lot of booze. He met me, sober (again sushi at home)- and then I think it went downhill. Basically we all partied too hard, except him! Not sure if he doesn’t like to party, or if he felt uncomfortable. Either way, J and I went to some pub on the corner. And chatted over 1 beer. Nothing to memorable- except that he doesn’t like PDA’s. Well neither do I, but if your drunk, who cares! I was supposed to have dinner with him on Sunday- he cancelled, not so shocking, and no word since. 1- no one every gets to meet the friends! And 2- not so sure what his beef was. Alas, as per this book im reading, I need to not worry about it, as that’s not the person I want to be with anyway.Saturday I met up with M after going out all day all over the city. We met at a bar, and went to a comedy show. Lots of fun. I like the comedy show because, they do the talking for you, and theres something to talk about after the show. Again, a lot of fun. Then we went back to his apt- or shall I say palatial pad- I’ve never seen something so big!!! 3 stories… in the city!? Hung out there. Good times. I need to somehow change this from party partner good times, to meaningful relationship. Its going to take time, as I’m not at that point in the book, ha! But nevertheless, I couldn’t be happier with everything in my life currently.

tiny

Went out with D last night…. Sushi, conversation was good, food was bad. I don’t know what I think about D. He’s different then the others because he actually asks me questions. It sounds like no big deal but he makes an effort to ask my opinion rather then agree or make a blanket statement. It’s a nice change. He’s short, which I can get over, but he’s tiny. As in he’s a tiny little package, and I don’t know if I like that. Re-read that again if you mind has wondered off! Im the same size as him, and if you know me, you know I don’t like that. The bigger the better!J (from the baseball game) called me last night, but I never got to return the call as I was out with D. J is attractive, and tall, and super down to earth, and I also enjoy my time with him a lot. But he’s young, like me, and I think he views this more of a friendship – which is ok, for now, but not for long. He’s certainly more attractive then all the people I’m hanging out with, but since I’m over the idea of looks, he needs to step it up a smidge. I’ll call him tonight, hopefully we can make plans.And M texted and called last night! You would think I would be overjoyed, and I am- but I think he views me as more of a party partner and less of a potential relationship. He asked if I wanted to go over his apt. I said no- he needs to work on making plans more then an hour in advance. Its called Planning.. get used to it! I like all 3 people for all different reasons. They’re all really smart and have a lot of ambition, which I think is super sexy. They’re physical attributes differ a lot from one to another. And I’m glad to report that I’m really enjoying my time with everyone and hope it continues and allows me to get to know them all on a much different, deeper level.A small update- A moved back to Philadelphia, only after booty calling me at 2AM last Saturday… cool… Argentina is in Miami for the weekend, and asked If I want to grab coffee next week- I said sure, but I think that ship has sailed (at least on my end). And there is one other person, a new J whom I have to make plans with….I start school next week, so all of these dates will have to become more serious as not to waste my time. I hope this will continue to keep getting better!

I'm back!

I’m going to a Yankees vs Red Sox game tonight! But lets back track a bit to see how I got to this point. Last I wrote I was going away on vacation. I went, I’m back, I got sick upon my arrival back home which cut into precious date days. As most of you know, I’ll be going back to school starting next week, which means, serial dates have to take a back seat, but real dates can take the passenger side. I met up with a new D last Wednesday, we went to Stone Rose for drinks. He’s articulate and engaging, probably because he’s 34, but he asks intelligent thoughtful questions. And before I knew it, 3 hours had passed! He’s an entrepreneur and works with a very famous online travel website doing something car rentals. It doesn’t sound interesting at first, but the more I heard him talk about his “start up” the more intrigued I became. Never underestimate my power of detective work with the internet- and that’s all I’ll say about that for now. He owns his apartment in the most wonderful part of the city, the West Village. We ended it with making a plan for dinner sometime this week. Got a text on Friday “hey S its D from last night! I had fun…so when I call you soon, what day should I ask you out?” I thought that was nice. Were going to a new surprise (my fav!) place tomorrow night. Last Thursday I met up with M ( the same one )- he happened to be at a doctors appointment in my neighborhood, and so we met up at a new wine bar and talked. He’s so easy to speak with, and he’s really outgoing and funny. Then we went across the way to get Mexican food, and then to a French restaurant up the street for dessert and a drink. It was getting late, so he walked me home. I really am enjoying my time with him. I wonder if he thinks of this as more of a “going out partner” more so then a potential relationship. He texts me nightly, usually with a “how are you”. Which is nice, don’t get me wrong, but really? And today is Tuesday, if you want to see me again, you should ask me out already- I’m booking fast! I think the next time I see him, I am going to try to be less “friendly and pal-like” and more like goddess you can’t stop thinking about. Nonetheless, I will try to portray a more serious side, because no doubt my “go with the flow” attitude screams, wecan do whatever and I don’t care, but that’s not the case for me, and I’ll change that! Which brings us to today. I’m going to the baseball game with J- the boy from Korean BBQ 2 weeks ago. The same guy who I never called back in the beginning but he had continued to call. I think what’s nice is that were going to do an activity outside of a bar or restaurant, and that should be fun. I’m a bit nervous, bc baseball is a 10 hour event and bc he’s a die hard fan, I doubt we’ll leave early- what happens if I run out of things to say?? Believe it, it happens! He’s picking me up after work in his car, and were driving… this should be fun!

Vacation time!

I'm going away for a week, but tune back in to see new posts when I return.
To note, I went out with M on Wednesday, we had an awesome time! Went to a wine bar on the UES and then went to get mexican after. I love mexican!
Good times, and I may see him tonight, but not sure....
J from earlier this week is definitely on the radar, and I will see him when I get back.
I've been speaking with another J, and i'll meet him when I get back
Argentina is still in Argentina, so again, I'll wait it out...

Im out.... talk to you soon.

BBQ

I met up with j at a Korean BBQ restaurant. I hate Korean BBQ which is why I went straight for a rice dish. J is nice, and I have no complaints. Actually I once went out with him about a month ago and then we lost touch- but he most recently called me (a few times!) and so I finally said yes, lets get together. I asked why he called after we didn’t speak from the first time. He told me his mother said ‘try it again” which I thought was really cute. We did a lot of catching up, which was nice. He taught me the in’s and out’s of how to perfect your meat on the BBQ pit (yikes!). He’s a huge baseball fan and invited me to a game sometime next week. I’ll be away on another vacation… ahhhh the life! But I did tell him that we should get together when I get back. And I hope he takes me up on it.

I feel bad for the guy next to us!

I met a new D at a wine bar down the street. I've never been, and will not go back. Its about the size of my bathroom! And thus I feel bad for the man who sat next to us. Overall the date was less then stellar. Yet D was nice, but not for me. Some choice moments include him telling me of his recent hobby of reading palms, as he read mine, and sized me up. How he works at a nursing home on the weekends, but he likes to call them, gasp- R-"s. (i just can't write it here)! He doesn't actually have a normal job, (like he said), he's aspiring to be a musician who seems to have a good heart, but does everything on his own schedule and time. Then he went on to chat the Flinstones, and how he likes Betty bc she's subservient, and he thinks Barny is a Hustler because you never see him work. He lives in his grandma's rent controlled apartment in Inwood, and pays $87 bones for it! We wrapped it up because he had to go to an art gallery opening down the street, we split the bill because I wanted out! Good times, it makes me laugh...

Skee Ball!!

Last night I went out with M- hello insta- click!
So fun, caring, and warm, really engaging, and nice. And he loves to chill and party, and was so much fun to be with! We went to Session 73 and drank and chatted, and hung out. Somehow we got onto the subject of my Skee Ball league and decided to walk over to Brother Jimmy's and play their less then stellar lane there. Now be aware that most of the people in the bar were using the lane as a cocktail table, and they were not thrilled to take their stuff off-in fact some guy went as far to say that he thought it was "weird" to play that at 11PM in a crowded bar. Yikes! We went on to play, he went on to kick my ass, and we kissed a lot, and then he offered to walk me home! I took a cab, hello it was midnight! And then he called me today... he's nice.

Wow

Wow. I just don't even know how to describe this date. Lets be fair, it was a quick meet- I didn't even know his name! ( I started chatting with him late last week). I'm sure he told me something like Cal or similar. get this:
I went to St. Marks, a very cool hip area in the city, meet C at some beer bar, ok. Night starts good, with me chatting about my weekend in fire island, he's been, hooray, we have something in common! And then we continue, He tells me to get a table, and he will bring the drinks. Then he goes on and tells me of this kick ball team that he does for fun, no its not as dorky as you imagine. And I listen, and tell him about the time I used to play intramural flag football in the city (granted it was for the beer and men only, but don't fault), but he seems to think that's neat. Then we chat about him being from NYC and that he lives in alphabet city, and how he loves the area. I tell him of my fav game skee ball at ace bar ( which is his "go to") and we dive into the nuances of the game. Really I did think everything is going well. And by well I mean, i don't think i would have gone out with him again, because there was no chemistry, but it wasn't a wash out of a night. He finishes his beer, and note I'm not done with my drink ( I know be shocked!)- and then, wait for it.. wait for it. he says he has to go, gets up and leaves!!! Yes, no- "i had a good time, or thanks" he just leaves. I've never been in this situation ever in my life. So I finish my drink, and leave and get the bus back up town. I'm shocked, even now. I have no idea, and I'm baffled. And I've been on bad dates, but none where they get up and leave?! It's called manners! Some part of me does find this comical, because he was way to thin for my taste, and seemed a lot pretentious, but really, manners sir.

A small update of what i have: I AM speaking to Argentina, he's actually visiting his family there and won't be back until mid August, we'll see how it plays out then.
Bulgaria called to say he had a wonderful time, and then never called again! I called back, said hi- no word- I'm not heartbroken.
I have a date tomorrow with M
I chatted with a very funny new D- who became a bit guarded with a "I like to chat many times on the phone before I go out with a girl". D- really? You either do or you don't so go out and see!
More deets tomorrow.

Stay with me...

I have a lot of drama going on with my housing, and I don't have a computer (i'm buying one tomorrow), then I'm going away for the weekend, and I will begin dating next week. Please stay tuned.

Don't cry for me Argentina!

I know I’ve not been keeping up the best I can, and I’m sorry. I don’t have a computer, and the one im borrowing, really blows! Anyway, Saturday I met up with the Argentinean. And all day I was so excited, I cleaned my apartment (just in case he came over) and I napped (in hopes of it being a late evening), I even pranced in front of friends for an outfit consultation (yes that’s what girls do- and side note: I must add that the Arden B dress worked its magic!) We met at this new hip Italian restaurant by my house, and had dinner and drinks. And it was really nice, and I had a really good time. To be honest, the communication barrier of understanding and having intelligent conversations is very frustrating. And even though we had a nice time, it was very apparent. We went back to my apartment for a beer, and made out. And then came the drama. Apparently, his understanding of my sarcasm, and my inquisitive mind is something he can not handle. He has an inability to have a conversation in a normal tone of voice if its something he disagrees with. Ex: I said we were different, and that customs in Argentina are completely different then here.. which he clearly didn’t like, and proceeded to raise his voice. But in a “I don’t have a middle octave range” I go straight from normal convo, to the annoyed “why don’t you understand me?!!?” And thus the entire month of dating began to unravel. To be fair, im not an easy person with respect to holding things back either. And on occasion I could be know to push and push and push until I get what I want… (a quality worth working on)- and that coupling has led to an unfortunate ending, in which I haven’t heard back from him since Sunday which was a small text of saying hi (sent by me). Look- this could mean nothing- although we used to speak a few times a day on email.. or this could be done. But either way, something would have to change, and im not sure if he or I are willing to do that. This should be easy… right?